Surving Long-Distance Relationships

According to Wikipedia

” A long-distance relationship (LDR) is typically an intimate relationship that takes place when the partners are separated by a considerable distance.”.

Ahem. Ahem.

Raising both hands, presently I’m in it but not forever.  🙂

How to survive an LDR?

Being across thousand of miles  is never and will never be an easy task.

Those of us who’ve tried, still trying and still on the same situation,

know how diiiiiffffffffficcccuuuuuuuuullllllllllllllltttttttttt  it is.

So for those of you who are on the on the brink of trying your hands into it remember…

It needs LOTS of EFFORT , TIME, PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING, TRUST

AND MOST OF ALL LOVE

and PRAYERS.

Building a happy and peaceful ambiance in a relationship will need a lot of those factors written above in order to maintain and nurture the relationship.

There are moments wherein long-distance situations are sometimes unavoidable, so I don’t have a blanket opinion that waiting is a bad idea.

Well like the famous saying goes…

” Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.” .

Been reading some articles online and had a good encounter from  -columbia.edu , click on this to go to the site.

” To consider the future of your relationship, it might be helpful to take a few steps back and evaluate your own feelings.

Do you still care deeply for him or her, or have your feelings waned after six months apart?

Is your relationship still fulfilling, or would you be happier on your own?

Depending on how you feel, it may provide clues to a future direction.

Despite how hard it is be far away from someone you care about, distance can be a blessing in disguise.

Proximity can lead us to take people for granted, whereas being apart allows us to know someone in a truly different way. The extra effort you both make to keep in touch, whether through phone calls, email, or snail-mail, can foster a special intimacy. In the end, you may learn more about each other’s personalities, values, ideas, and dreams than folks who spend time together every day. Face-to-face relationships can grow stale and filled with superficial conversations and few, if any, meaningful heart-to-hearts.

Have you considered talking with your partner about how you’re feeling? Maybe s/he is wondering about the same things you’re considering in the future. If both of you want to be together, then you can begin to strategize about ways to make this happen, to make things possible.

  • Will you need to wait until you achieve your individual goals?
  • Can one of you transfer locations? Or change jobs? Also leave the possibility open that you may continue in this long-distance arrangement for a while, and that would be okay, too.

Before being in a long-distance relationship, take time to think about your feelings and ways to make the most out of being apart. There are many “right” ways to be involved in a loving relationship, and only time will tell if yours will last.

 Ours did and with God’s help I’m hoping it will stay strong and stand  the test of time.  We have a joyful ending  but not the so called fairy tale finale love story “wherein the characters lived happily ever after ending.”.
 But I can say we feel happy and blessed.
 It’s not perfect we’ve been through trials, ups and downs but we stayed solid together having faith in GOD that our relationship will be a work in progress.
Both of you should  be willing to make a commitment to help your partner work through the things going on in his or her life.  In any relationship it’s a two-way thing, it takes two to tango but it takes three to work it out to have the best  relationship, why three?  

you, God and your partner.

The happiness I feel  when I and my partner pray together is the best feeling, encouragement and expression of love I ever experienced and will always love experiencing.
 It is still and always be God who decides on our future.
He will not just  give you someone who’s good nor better,
He will bless you the BEST. If you only let HIS perfect will be done in your life.
So have faith in Him and seek our Father even in our relationships no matter how across the miles it is.

Yes, Long-distance relationships do survive,

with a grateful heart ours did.

Stay happy and blessed.  Remember this, it’s between…

you, God and your partner.

You and I with GOD
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